The joys and sorrows of a stay-at-home mom, wife, home economist and woman.

Bed Rest Update and How You Can Help!

Today was day 5 of bed rest. About 60 days to go! My midwife says I need to make it to at least 35 weeks, we are hoping to make it to 38. I am now 28 weeks and 4 days pregnant, so it is a long time to go.

I’m certainly not enjoying this, but the past few days have really reinforced that being on bed rest is what I need to be doing right now to take care of our unborn daughter, our family, and myself. Pretty much any time I stand up- even to walk from the bed to the bathroom- I start to have contractions. And I have noticed that as it gets later in the day (4 pm and later), even if I’m sitting down I’ll start to have contractions. Tonight I was sitting on the couch with Jonathan and Benjamin as we read bedtime stories, and I had two contractions in less than 10 minutes, so I had to lay down. Then I had them pretty regularly 4-5 minutes apart, and we were just at the point where we were going to call in the grandparent troops so we could go to the hospital again, when they thankfully stopped.

So bed rest is certainly not fun, certainly not ideal, but definitely necessary. And I am thankful that God and my body has made that completely clear, although I still chafe quite a bit at the restriction.

I watched a series of videos on a family whose daughter was born at 25 weeks, and had a 97 day stay in the NICU. It was a very real reminder of what we are hoping to avoid. That it will all be worth it to deliver a healthy, full-term baby.

The past 5 days have already shown us just how difficult this is on our family, and particularly on Benjamin. He is all of a sudden, not only having to perform well at work, but he is taking care of getting Jonathan up and putting him down at night, doing the diaper changes, making us meals and his lunch, cleaning up the house, policing a wife who always thinks she can do more than she should, trying to coordinate help for me during the day, and a myriad of other details that go into running our day to day lives. He remarked the other night that it takes a lot of people to replace me! He is doing an amazing job, but it is hard for me to see how stressful this is for him, and how much he is worried about me and the baby.

In hopes of making this all easier to manage, we have set up a Care Calendar, so people can sign up to help out. We need help with watching Jonathan, helping out around the house, running errands, and so much more. So if you are willing and able to sign up, you can visit: http://carecalendar.org/logon/94171. The Calendar ID is 94171 and the Security Code is 5385. As always, prayer is greatly appreciated!

Thank you to everyone who has already helped us out, and for all of your encouragement and prayers.

Comments on: "Bed Rest Update and How You Can Help!" (3)

  1. Praying that little Missy will stay cooking for a long, long time!!!

    And Yes, it is a lot of work to keep all of you going especially with the special dietary challenges.

    Love you, so glad the contractions stopped. 😉

    Becky

  2. Donna Fisher said:

    Dear Heather,

    Sorry to hear that you’re restricted to bedrewt.

    But know it will be worth it when you hold that
    that little girl in your arms.

    I am free to come help out most any way I can. Clean house, laundry, caring for Jonathan or whatever. I’m free 11/28, 29, or 30. Please feel free to let me know when is best for you.

    You are all in my prayers,

    Donna Fisher 407-737-0406

  3. Donna Fisher said:

    Dear Heather,

    Sorry to hear that you’re restricted to bedrest.

    But know it will be worth it when you hold
    that little girl in your arms.

    I am free to come help out most any way I can. Clean house, laundry, caring for Jonathan or whatever. I’m free 11/28, 29, or 30. Please feel free to let me know when is best for you.

    You are all in my prayers,

    Donna Fisher 407-737-0406